Hi all,
This post is actually inspired by a comment I made to another post here. And it’s about being false, or in other words, dishonest with ourselves.
We’ve all been false at some point in our lives. But we’re especially false when it comes to sexuality as Christians. We need to start admitting things—to God, to our partners, and to ourselves.
We all have hidden desires and fantasies which probably make us feel ashamed, and that’s why we hide them and “rebuke” them when we see them. But we need to stop doing that. It’s not healthy.
I will be the first to admit here that I’m an utter monster with the sexual drive and desire of a horny goat. My wife knows this about me. However, it’s the very reason that I accept these things about myself is because I do not want to succumb to them. Woe unto the man who does not know how to control himself because he thinks he is above himself. By acknowledging the truth of our desires, some of the forbidden nature becomes less scary, and the power of temptation is undermined.
Being honest with yourself and with others doesn’t mean that you’ve relegated yourself to being overly liberal with your morals. It doesn’t mean that you’ve given in to unseemly desires or the like. It just means that you’re honest. Today we care so much about sexual rules that we forget about greed, envy and pride—and truth!
So maybe you have an “inappropriate” fantasy, maybe about an orgy or something like that. If you do, it doesn’t make you anything more or less. It also doesn’t mean that you want to act on these desires. Remember, God made us male and female, and we fulfill those roles as Christians. But we’re sexual beings, and that means we like things that arouse us.
These arousals, however, don’t give us identities like some would have you believe today. Nor should anyone condemn you for having a fantasy. Nor should anyone be complacent! Making your attraction your identity, condemning fantasies as evil, and being apathetic toward such issues are all unhealthy extremes that should be avoided!
Stop using modern secular and modern Christian ideas to formulate how you should act, and start looking to what the Bible really says about sex.
Comments on the matter are welcome. May the Lord bless and keep you all!
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